Firstly I'd like to remind you all that we build relationships to love & not quarrel.
Love more & fight occassionally just for a change.
Love when its possible,
Forgive when its not so huge an issue,
Making Love is Easy But Making Peace is Tough (as well as essential)
Breaking Up is Easy while Holding On is Tough.
Go for the tougher thing in life, only then you’ll Learn, Gain & Grow.
It requires an effort from both sides - to believe, to forgive, relinquish fights & persevere relationship.
Ignore some habits which you dislike in your partner or rather accept it gracefully for difference of opine/ habits will always be there with whosoever you stay; in life there comes a point where we dont even agree with our parents, so its next to impossible to have no differences. However, one has to cope with parents, partners and others. And its good to be different, as its boring to live with shadows, so you better enjoy the differences, respect them & learn from each other whatever you can & help each other grow.
YOU - THE ULTIMATE DECIDER :
At the end of the day you decide what is substantial? Rshp OR Ego/Arguement?
Its always you who decide what u want - Disputes & Conflicts? OR Love, Harmony & Peace?
Decide and act accordingly.
Even if you’re at the verge of breaking up , you always have the choice of saying to your partner, “No, dont go, I cant stay without you, I love you” which we often dont do & rather hold on to our ego & let the person go.
Apologise, Hug, Console, Make things up. Clarify patiently peacefully politely. Listen to each other calmly. Most importantly keep the tone of voice loving & understanding...dont be agitated that aggravates the situations most!
Try to look at the other person’s concerns, possessiveness, angst as hidden love for you. It has various feelings for you somewhere down the line, which we ignore in rage.
If you’re having bad times with your partner, remember the good times you’d together.
Nothing changes except our choices.
If you’re happy, then you simply choose to be;
if you’re sad, its because you’ve chosen that.
Everything in our life is a CHOICE.
Look at the positive aspects in everyone. Forget the negative. Do appreciate overtly what you like, it helps you both know what you like about each other & that way they will always retain what you like. Thrust aside criticism, focus on good. Leave those arguements which seem weak & baseless; rather interrupt with a kiss ;)
To Quote Shakepeare, “ Beauty is in the eyes of beholder.”
Thus you decide how you look at things.
After every dispute, you get two choices – hold together your Ego or Love; you can only choose one.
Choice is yours. Make right choices.
Give Love, Appreciation, Apologies & you’ll get em back.
Nag at your partner, Complaint, Irritate & you’ll get back the same.
Choice is yours. Decide what you want. Behave nicely.
Agitation, Turmoil, Upheaval – in your life or relationship exists only because you chose it.
If you want a change, shift ur perceptions, change the way you look at things & everything else will change. Revel in all what you have.
If you can listen a Song - Dance, for many don't have ears, legs, hands, cell fones, laptops, ipods!
Sing even if u feel you’re a Bad Singer for many are Mute!
Hold on to your Partner for many crave for one!
Positivity comes from gratitude ;
To quote, “ I cried because I’d no shoes till I saw a man who had no feet.”
Have as much fun as you can, which is a choice.
VALUE what you’ve – if you dont, you’ll LOOSE it for sure..whether its your partner or anything else in life.
Its We who make our lives labyrinths & nobody else so blame yourself, if you regret right now for anything. Moreover, it always takes two to make a quarrel so you cant blame wholly the other person. Admit that you’re also wrong somewhere.
To quote “ Finding Fault is Easy, Correcting your own fault is difficult.”
(Go for tougher as mentioned earlier)
Rectify your own mistakes first.
There is only one way to rescue your Relationship - Reconcile after every fight, always get back to your partner after taking your space.
APPRECIATION - CORE OF LIFE :
Now I’d say, not just in terms on relationships but in every aspect of life.
Dont Lacerate, it might be Lethal for any soul, keep a watch over you words.
There are two ways of uttering negative side of your patner or any other individual, one would be Encouraging & other would be Discouraging. Speak politely with suggestions how one can reform. Dont harass anybody with constant criticism, it may make one dishearted & discouraged! Dont nag at anybody. They may end up even trying to get better.
To conclude, Help your partner as well as every other individual in becoming better beings...only then you’re true partners & humane.
No Love Stories come sweet & sugary from Heaven like Fairy Tales, you’ve to strive and make it a Happy Ending Fairy Tale =)
Give time & all will be well. With time the bond gets strong so dont give up soon, if you’re unable to adjust in the beginning. Staying together even after major setbacks is a choice.
PS – These are some of my experiences of life. Jotting down these experiences for it may help many, I'm sure, & as the song goes.....
Ekko hai kahani bas badle zamana! Aahun aahun aahun from Love Ajkal :D(ance)
God Bless you reader.