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Five Hindi films that made my mind stir..

1) Udaan - The ending of this movie is thought provoking. Rajat Barmecha (Rohan) is not sure about what kind of life he is gonna have but he takes up the challenge to enter in an unseen Uncertain Cave, a new life which will certainly get him rid of his father's torments, but it also opens doors for new kind of struggles and opportunities. Such a move takes a lot of courage and its a life changing decision and it may make him go astray or it may give him a new ray. Moreover, he decides to take his little step brother with him, he is not insensitive towards the little kid. He knows that this little kid will add to his responsibilities and he knows that leaving him with father will only make his life hell. Hence, a lesson of taking up responsibility, challenges, struggles, and making life with own hands is what strikes me most and leaving behind what does not let you live or grow at all. In real life, students commit suicide for small failures in life but here is the guy who does not lose his mind, rather he uses his mind to make a  new life.

2) Bhaag Milkha Bhaag - In this movie, specifically that scene where Meesha shafi (Perizad) tries to seduce Farhan Akhtar (Milkha Singh) in swimming pool. He says, "ye meri khud se ladai hai." This dialogue made me feel that somehow love and lust both distract you from your goals. And his short term affair with Rebacca Breeds (Stella) made him feel that she keeps him from his dreams. Movie as a whole gives a message that if you want to achieve something, your entire focus should be on your goals and I feel its an apt message for the current generation as they are more into love and lust, consequently, they have no goals to chase.

3) 3 Idiots - I loved this movie because of the strong message it gives in relation to the profession students choose. Sometimes parents force their dreams on their children which is not right on their part. And also the ignorance of some students who choose Engineering then go for MBA and then work in Banks, Amir Khan (Rancho) calls Sanjay Lafont (Suhas) a Gadha for making such choices in life. And I find many such people in real life too who are not sure of what they want to do in life, they are just moving like cattles in the crowd so its a good lesson for them.

4) Table No. 21 - The movie takes up the sensitive issue of ragging in an unusual way. I feel the message is strong and must change those insensitive hearts who are around us. How a normal child becomes mentally challenged just because of severe ragging, it moved me and I hope it change the people who rag unnecessarily.

5) Swades - The movie gives a message of developing your own homeland no matter how much you have studied and progressed. It makes me feel like staying in India and adding to the development of my own country instead of going to some other country and adding to their resources. You owe development to your homeland.

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Romance with life

Hope is when we continue to struggle despite difficulties, hurdles, obstacles that try to demovitate us. But we strive to win over it & move on with the hope that someday, it will be alright, this problem will come to an end, we'll solve it successfully. This struggle, this strife is what I call Romance with life.

When sombody fails in some venture, s/he loses hope. They commit suicide or stop making efforts, they submit to their opponants (situations/people), they lose the strength to struggle with odds anymore, which is a choice.. In that moment, they choose hatred for life, or to some it might be a burden which they can't carry; the romance with life ends. Hope vanishes & life ends.

Sometimes hope is sought from the elements of nature, for instance, breeze brushing our face as if caressing; or watching moon late night from balcony or terrace as if its pouring love; or the care of sunlight when shivering in cold; warmth of your partner; small effort of your child to comfort you; and sometimes conincidences transpire unexpectedly which make you smile in worst mood.. These coincidences are hope giving in disguise, they are sent by God to keep you going.. Thats another way of showering love n romance by life upon us.

One real life event to conclude, when I saw physically challenged children dancing on wheel chairs & with the help of each other in SatyaMev Jayate( a show host by Amir Khan) My heart told me they are romancing with life & you need to learn from them.. To keep dancing, to stay optimistic, no matter how adverse situation you are stuck in.. For you have legs & hands & brain, you can act & conquer whatever comes in your way.

PS : This was my contribution to #Microfiction #Hope  on 7June 2013

Relationships and Our choices

Firstly I'd like to remind you all that we build relationships to love & not quarrel.

Love more & fight occassionally just for a change.

Love when its possible,

Forgive when its not so huge an issue,

Making Love is Easy But Making Peace is Tough (as well as essential)

Breaking Up is Easy while Holding On is Tough.

Go for the tougher thing in life, only then you’ll Learn, Gain & Grow.

It requires an effort from both sides - to believe, to forgive, relinquish fights & persevere relationship.

Ignore some habits which you dislike in your partner or rather accept it gracefully for difference of opine/ habits will always be there with whosoever you stay; in life there comes a point where we dont even agree with our parents, so its next to impossible to have no differences. However, one has to cope with parents, partners and others. And its good to be different, as its boring to live with shadows, so you better enjoy the differences, respect them & learn from each other whatever you can & help each other grow.

YOU - THE ULTIMATE DECIDER :

At the end of the day you decide what is substantial? Rshp OR Ego/Arguement?

Its always you who decide what u want - Disputes & Conflicts? OR Love, Harmony & Peace?

Decide and act accordingly.

Even if you’re at the verge of breaking up , you always have the choice of saying to your partner, “No, dont go, I cant stay without you, I love you” which we often dont do & rather hold on to our ego & let the person go.

Apologise, Hug, Console, Make things up. Clarify patiently peacefully politely. Listen to each other calmly. Most importantly keep the tone of voice loving & understanding...dont be agitated that aggravates the situations most!

Try to look at the other person’s concerns, possessiveness, angst as hidden love for you. It has various feelings for you somewhere down the line, which we ignore in rage.

If you’re having bad times with your partner, remember the good times you’d together.

Nothing changes except our choices.

If you’re happy, then you simply choose to be;

if you’re sad, its because you’ve chosen that.

Everything in our life is a CHOICE.

Look at the positive aspects in everyone. Forget the negative. Do appreciate overtly what you like, it helps you both know what you like about each other & that way they will always retain what you like. Thrust aside criticism, focus on good. Leave those arguements which seem weak & baseless; rather interrupt with a kiss ;)

To Quote Shakepeare, “ Beauty is in the eyes of beholder.”

Thus you decide how you look at things.

After every dispute, you get two choices – hold together your  Ego or Love; you can only choose one.

Choice is yours. Make right choices.

Give Love, Appreciation, Apologies & you’ll get em back.

Nag at your partner, Complaint, Irritate & you’ll get back the same.

Choice is yours. Decide what you want. Behave nicely.

Agitation,  Turmoil, Upheaval – in your life or relationship exists only because you chose it.

If you want a change, shift ur perceptions, change the way you look at things & everything else will change. Revel in all what you have. 

If you can listen a Song - Dance, for many don't have ears, legs, hands, cell fones, laptops, ipods!

Sing even if u feel you’re a Bad Singer for many are Mute!

Hold on to your Partner for many crave for one!

Positivity comes from gratitude ;

To quote, “ I cried because I’d no shoes till I saw a man who had no feet.”

Have as much fun as you can, which is a choice.

VALUE what you’ve – if you dont, you’ll  LOOSE it for sure..whether its your partner or anything else in life.

Its We who make our lives labyrinths & nobody else so blame yourself, if you regret right now for anything. Moreover, it always takes two to make a quarrel so you cant blame wholly the other person. Admit that you’re also wrong somewhere.

To quote “ Finding Fault is Easy, Correcting your own fault is difficult.”

(Go for tougher as mentioned earlier)

Rectify your own mistakes first.

There is only one way to rescue your Relationship - Reconcile after every fight, always get back to your partner after taking your space.

APPRECIATION - CORE OF LIFE :  
Now I’d say, not just in terms on relationships but in every aspect of life.

Dont Lacerate, it might be Lethal for any soul, keep a watch over you words.

There are two ways of uttering negative side of your patner or any other individual, one would be Encouraging & other would be Discouraging. Speak politely with suggestions how one can reform. Dont harass anybody with constant criticism, it may make one dishearted & discouraged! Dont nag at anybody. They may end up even trying to get better.

To conclude, Help your partner as well as every other individual in becoming better beings...only then you’re true partners & humane.

No Love Stories come sweet & sugary from Heaven like Fairy Tales, you’ve to strive and make it a Happy Ending Fairy Tale =)

Give time & all will be well. With time the bond gets strong so dont give up soon, if you’re unable to adjust in the beginning. Staying together even after major setbacks is a choice.

PS – These are some of my experiences of life. Jotting down these experiences for it may help many, I'm sure, & as the song goes.....

Ekko hai kahani bas badle zamana! Aahun aahun aahun from Love Ajkal  :D(ance)

God Bless you reader.